Letz Cheat for Pleasures

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Yesterday I was sitting in a cafe reading my book where a lady of about 26-27 years of age came and sat to my next table. Now after 5 minutes a man of about 35-40 years of age came and sat beside her. First of all that lady started complaining about him that,” Why are so late. I am waiting since 30 minutes”. But in reality it was just 5 minutes. Now she started complaining about her in-laws and her husband and that man was sitting and listening to her holding her hand. She said,” My husband can take a leave of 20 days but then when I asked him to take a leave to take me on a foreign tour he said no as he doesn’t have that much money. My in-laws always keep scolding and taunting me for not doing any work at home but how would I do as I know nothing. There is no one who would understand me. Today you are here listening to me but tomorrow you may not be here as you have your wife and family.”
This was the frustration she was taking out but what actually shocked me was the answer given by that man bringing her close that,” I will be with you if you want and I am ready to leave my family for you. You leave your in- laws and I will leave my family and will stay together. ”

I was like what??? Giving up on the ones whose happiness totally depends on you and to who you have committed to be with and for what, the pleasures that you are not able to achieve??

Where the real problem lies is the way our mind is getting conditioned nowadays. Nowadays we all think that when we get a perfect love, get respect, get importance is the perfect relationship but what we actually are forgetting is that the relations are not built up by getting but its built up by what you ready to give and adjust according to your partner. But we can’t think in that way as we all are bound to just think of our pleasures and pleasures are the reason that makes any kind of relationship temporary.

Let’s take another example to understand pleasure.
  • A friend told you that it gives a great pleasure after having a cigarette. So to feel that pleasure you also try one and you were able to feel it in the same way your friend described it. And so now to have that same feeling, you will again need to smoke and gradually you will become addicted to the wrong thing.

So we can say that the main reason for becoming addicted to anything is the Pleasures and not having control on those pleasures results into cheating, breaking trust, lying and what not.
In the first example there were many possibilities for that lady or the men to do rather than cheating on the ones that love them or if not love at least trust them. But as we stop getting the pleasures that we want, we become restless as we don’t have control on our own thoughts but thoughts control us and start cheating making our selves worst among anyone.

Before we cheat with others, we cheat with our own consciousness. We can’t accept the fact that many times the things we like may also be wrong and sometimes things we don’t like may also be the correct thing to do but as we don’t talk with our consciousness we make our selves believe that what we do is right and so we keep doing the wrong things even if we know it’s not correct.

As pleasure has now got so much importance from us, it has become an important reason to stay happy. Not obtaining it makes us do many wrong things and even it makes us commit a crime like rape.

As pleasure controls us, we can never remain happy if we are not able to achieve it and when this happens we get jealous from the outside world which results into hurting someone’s feelings and making others normal life also unhappy along with us.

Our state of mind should be in our control rather than in the control of the thoughts coming from the outside world and in the same way we should control our pleasures rather than pleasure controls us and our happiness. 






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