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KINDNESS OR STRICTNESS???

There is always a question inside our mind when we are communicating or explaining something to someone i.e. How should I behave? Should I be kind in my speech so that the other person doesn’t feel hurt? Or should I be firm and tell them strictly to stop doing things that are unwanted? When we are too kind to someone, the other person feels valued and safe. They prefer to stay around us. But what if someone is on the wrong path and we keep explaining with kindness every time. Will he listen? At first, yes. It may create a positive impact. But once it becomes a regular pattern, he may stop paying attention. He gets used to the words, but not to the change. Let’s take an example... Someone addicted to bad habits like drinking, smoking, or being on the phone all the time. In the beginning, our kind approach may affect him. Because of emotional bonding, he may realize his mistake once, twice, or even thrice. But if this becomes a regular cycle,  will kindness be effective? No, kindness...

Wish Vs Goals: The Real Difference that shapes Success

In life, success is something we all strive for. From our academic years to the start of our careers, we put in our best efforts to achieve something meaningful—to get a good job, earn recognition, and live a life of value. But despite our hopes and hard work, not everyone reaches the destination they dream of. Why? Because wishing for success is not the same as planning for it. When we see someone driving a luxury car or living in a grand villa, we often think, “I wish I had that too.” It’s a common reaction. We desire those outcomes. We imagine ourselves in that position. But the real question is—how do we plan to get there? Hope gives us the vision but not the roadmap. A goal, on the other hand, begins where hope ends—with a question: “How will I achieve it?” This simple but powerful question turns a vague wish into a clear objective. It gives birth to action, effort, and strategy. Let’s consider a common aspiration: “I want to be at a managerial level within 3 years.” It’s...

Outer World Vs Inner World: A Journey Within

The Motive Behind Exploring "Outer World vs Inner World" In a world where external achievements, appearances, and performances dominate our daily lives, we often overlook the most vital space we inhabit — Our Inner World . This is where our emotions, thoughts, fears, values, and dreams reside. It is the truth of who we are. The Outer World , on the other hand, is the space everyone else lives in — each person carrying their own invisible inner realities. Ironically, while real change and growth begin from within, we constantly strive to control the outer world — something that’s never fully in our control, as each individual lives by their own values, feelings, and perceptions. When we fail to influence it the way we want, we feel stressed, disappointed, and sometimes even angry with ourselves for not being able to control others. So, the question arises: If becoming a better person starts with mastering the Inner Self, why do we invest most of our energy trying to influence ...

COMFORT ZONE Vs GROWTH ZONE

 A person sees himself in many zones as per his daily activities that are going around. He tries to adopt himself as per the surroundings. So can we say that he is getting influenced by others? Influence means to control someone or a group and get ourselves to believe in what they are saying is true.  When we are young and in our growing stage, we always find people who try to motivate us to do some tasks. Those tasks can be negative or positive, right or wrong, hard or easy. A regular child gets up, goes to school, attends classes, comes home, does homework, goes to play, comes back and eats and sleep.  But Sachin Tendulkar, he started his journey of Cricket at the age of 11 years and today he is known as the God of Cricket.  Just 1 thing different from a common child and that was to grow himself to achieve his dreams.  Similarly a professional Person gets up, does some exercise or reads the newspaper, gets ready, goes to the office, completes his work, comes b...

Fate Vs Destiny- Know the True Difference

In my last blog " Let's Redefine Our Own Destiny ", I mentioned about how the actions of our past lead us to where we are today. In simple words, A journey from Actions to Reactions is defined as Destiny. But sometimes we misunderstand our Destiny with Fate. Many of us are not aware of the Difference between Destiny and Fate.    A predetermined course of Action which is decided by a natural order in the Universe is known as Fate. In simple words, A journey of an individual which starts inside the womb of mother, growing of that child from kid to an Adult, performing his duties based upon his doings and then ultimately he dies, might be at a young age or might be at an older age. This is the course of action predefined by the Universe and so it is defined as Fate. But During his journey of life, whatever life makes him face and whatever actions are taken by him are the results of Destiny.  A Destiny is something that has been influenced by our own actions or Actions done b...

Let's Redefine Our Own Destiny

Let's start by understanding the meaning of Destiny " Everything that is happening in our life or something that is fixed and going to happen in the future means Destiny." But my first question is to ask our own selves that Whatever we are doing or achieving, whatever that is happening in our life isn't because of some of the events that took place where our life was involved and made us what we are today? There is a famous saying "We will achieve what we have done" which can be understood by The Law of Karma that " All the actions have their equal Reactions" Meaning that whatever we do today has a reaction towards that action in the future.  So it is not the fate that leads or does anything but it is our own action of past which has reacted today and kept us in a situation of what we are today.  Let's understand this with a common example of Mobile Addiction: A 5-6 year old child today doesn't eat without taking a mobile phone to play game...

Sadness: A Reason to stay away from Reality

Today in this Fast Life, we get many reasons for being Sad. Be it the reason over work load and pressure, the reason related to our personal problems or the reason of losing someone close to us. Let's take an example to understand this: There is someone in our life who became a very important person, whom we loved very much but that person cheated us. Now that person who cheated us is happy in their life, maybe with someone whom they love but on the contrary we became Sad. Seeing us Sad, our loved one's also started worrying about us and they became sad. Our colleagues who are dependent on us for the work alloted to us got dissatisfied because we were not able to focus on our work. In reality, the person who cheated should have received the Punishment but here it is us who are punishing our own selves as well as everyone connected to our life. Aren't we keeping ourselves away from reality just because of someone's wrong doings? Another example can be related to our ...