When Expectation meets Reality

Our generation has a common question to his/her friend/partner that, “Why are you expecting so much from me?”

Firstly expectations are common for all people. Each and every person expect more or less from a particular person depending on their level of friendship. The more close you get to someone, the more are the chances of increasing expectations. The thing is some show or tell the other person and some keep it in their mind.

If we think that others should not keep any expectations from you, isn’t that also one kind of expectation???

• There is only one way of any person to stop expecting from you and that is by having a total memory-loss of that person. But is it practically possible? There’s no need to think of the answer.

Let’s have a talk about dealing with these expectations.

• If you feel that the other person is expecting much more from me, then don’t just bounce on him for having so many expectations. Instead try to understand that person’s point of view for having that expectation and then calmly make them understand your point of view too.

No person can totally stop expecting but it may be decreased by understanding just one point that

“No one does anything according to your thinking. Its only you who have to adjust according to your surroundings as adjustments take a lead role for having a peaceful life.”

What happens when your expectations are not fulfilled??

It leads to disappointment, heartbreaks and sometimes even end of relationships.

But let’s make one thing clear that expectations should never become a reality. When we want to have more & more from what we have, it leads to expectations and expectations have no end. So it can be concluded that expectations are the result of desires.

Just like desires are good in a limit, expectations are also good if they have a limit.

Many times its only you and your lies responsible for the increasing expectations towards you. Lets see by taking an example-

• You promised your friend to meet today for having fun but you know that you are not going to make it as you already have other plans and so when you call your friend again to cancel the plan, he gets disappointed as firstly you promised him which increased his expectations and when you said no afterwards, all his excitement got ruined.
• Now if we think of the same situation with a different perspective then when your friend asked to meet you, you told that he already has another plan so you will meet him tomorrow. In this case there was no expectation created as you were clear to him and so no disappoint can take place.

Each and every person should clear one thing in their mind that in the case of expectations, no-one is right and no-one is wrong. It is the expectation who is playing all the game and when this expectation meets reality, it brings question in any kind of relationship.

Expectations can’t be stopped but it can be given a direction by openly telling the other person of what you feel or expect so that he/she can help you clear your misunderstanding and explain his/her point of view.

So to get rid of expectations becoming your reality, always be open and feel free to clear your head as one small misunderstanding may end a strong relationship.