Trust and Its Issues

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TRUST means relying on someone’s judgements or promises. Trust is a step-wise and time-acquiring process based on the behaviour of the second person.

Trust can be attributed to relationships between two persons, nations or person-technology. Trust is result of compassion and love. When we truly feel for the other person’s likes and dislikes, mutual understanding is created between us which results in trust.

Trust is created when we have a belief in something or confident expectation about something.
  • We all go to temples or pray to god as we have a belief that god will always listen to us and help us sooner or later and so we trust him for letting us out of our situation.
  • We know that our parents have more experience of life than us so we trust their judgements for us on being right or wrong.

Talking about the trust issues created between two people, its major reason is to have a competitive nature. Keeping a competitive mind and always thinking about getting ahead of everyone, even your own friends create trust issues.
  • Let’s say you are studying with your friends in a group. Everyone is sharing their notes to each other to learn properly but you are not as you know that you have the best notes among everyone and someone can get ahead of you if you share it.  So you just say that you don’t have any notes. Within some period of time, each of your friend will come to know that you don’t share your notes and this gradually results in trust issues which might sometimes affect friendship too.

To have a proper trust and to maintain a good friendship, never ever hide things or be selfish.

Talking about professional life where there are some politics going on, there you can’t be an open person to share each and every thing with your team but being a diplomatic person helps you a lot there. Keep your behaviour so good that everyone trust your judgements. This will help you to keep yourself out of the game of politics.

  • The politics in any country is created because of this trust issues only. Before election, each party promises many things to do to gain trust of people. But after winning they won’t do a thing as promised and as again elections come near they will show up to gain trust. But they will be on the winning side for temporary period only. One day all will realise and stop supporting their party.
  • But a person who does anything and everything for his country without being selfish always earns trust of the common people forever like Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Barrack Obama etc...

So think carefully that whether you want to be a temporary king or a permanent one.

In a relationship, trust matters the most. If you hide something from your partner, one day he/she is going to know about that and when it happens, a great disturbance may be created between both of you and your trust.
So never hide anything from your loved ones, even if you need to share something which is disliked by your partner, share it as your trust won’t allow them to go away from you.

Your friends, family, your partner and everyone around you  should always have that feeling for you  that,’ whatever happens he will never ever betray me.’ Then and only then you can proudly say that, ’I am a trustworthy person.’
When you will see people around you are able to trust you with anything, the feeling created inside you will be priceless.

A common question arises in our mind, ‘What if some-one breaks our trust?’
Yes there are majority chances of getting breakdown in trust and one of the main reasons for this is not defining boundaries of expectations. Everyone have their own expectations and there comfort level and if its known to your closed ones will try to keep themselves from crossing that limit.
Another reason for breakdown of trust is due to misunderstanding and communication gap.
  • A girl going to an unknown place to meet up a stranger for some work thinks that her husband/boyfriend will be OK with that and so doesn’t share this with him. But there are chances that he might not be comfortable with it and after knowing he might misunderstand her.
  • A guy thinks while smoking that it will be OK to smoke one more cigarette a day as she never defined of how much to smoke. But in actual she might not be comfortable at all with that and so when she finds out, she starts thinking that her trust is broken.


So well-define yourself and your limit of adjustment to keep your relationship/friendship away from misunderstanding and breakdowns of trust.

  

   



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