Borderline

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There are so many feelings being felt by a normal human. We experience anger, sadness, love, hatred. But out of all these feelings, do you know what makes us the most vulnerable? It’s none other than the Attachment.

Attachment is an accumulation of all the feelings which includes Hatred, love, trust, anger, happiness, sadness and many more which makes us a vulnerable person. These attachments are the only reason for any person to always keep his mind busy. Either he must be thinking about love that he got from some person, sadness he got due to breaking up of any relationship or hatred that he felt when his boss scolded him. Ultimately all this thought processes that keep taking place in any person is due to the attachment that he has with that particular person. And these attachments are the reason to keep us on a borderline of normal thinking and overthinking.

What do you think is the reason for any misunderstanding or miscommunication taking place between 2 persons?
It’s none other than overthinking. And these overthinking is just a borderline away from the normal thinking that is required for any human being.

Let’s understand this with an example.

  • We all know that each and every person born on this planet is going to die one day. And we all have accepted the fact that one fine day we are going to lose our loved one’s. This is normal thinking. Now whenever someone who is very close dies, that person cries a lot, gets into shock, many people get victim of mental issues, why all these takes place? Because here our normal thinking has turned into overthinking.

We are not able to control our thoughts which leads us to think over and over again on the same incident that took place which leads us in forming a loop of thoughts over that particular topic which ultimately damages our mental system.

The borderline between this normal thinking and overthinking is a very thin line and a person won’t be aware even if he crosses it. Many crimes take place due to this crossing of borderline. If a person is able to achieve control over his thoughts than he won’t commit any mistake and the crime won’t take place. But it’s very difficult for a normal human being to have control over his thinking process as we all are bound by our desires. Day by day our desires keep on increasing and so whenever we are not able to achieve our desire we become restless which ultimately makes us cross this borderline and get into the mode of overthinking.

Psychology of criminals before committing a crime was also normal but as they didn’t have control over their desires and when they were not able to achieve what they wanted , they got into committing crimes like having any extra marital affair, rapes, acid attacks, murders and what not.

The person who is not able to have control over his desires and goes to any extent to achieve it, is framed as having a problem of Borderline Personality Disorder. We cant relate this as any disease as here a person has problem over controlling his emotions which happens when that person is not mentally strong. He has lost his control over all his senses and these senses are being controlled by his desires going on in his mind.

It's not bad to have any desire but you should drive your desire rather than a the desire driving you and this will always keep you within the borderline and you won't commit any serious mistakes.

Comments

  1. Unknown30 January 2020 at 15:29

    Great , wise thoughts to follow and practice.
    Omshanti
    Many blessings

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